Sorry - i had a blip in concentration, and said that i assumed the relay was NC, when i ment to say NO.
...but, without a control line, its closed. Indeed, with a control line its closed also (however, the LED on the relay itself blinks as you would expect).
Fair point about not being able to measure continuity with a multimeter, however, thats ancillary to the real problem - the relay (both of them) seem to be closed all the time, regardless of control line.
The system has never worked - its a new setup.